I have to say this, because I’ve been sitting on it for a week.
Every weekend I bring a batch of cookies or some other homemade treat to the pool and distribute them among the kids and parents there, and this is generally very well-received. Last weekend I brought some extra-delicious cookies, and one of my friends (the mother of 3 kids at the pool) was throwing down on them and shared some with her friend, another mom I don’t know very well. My friend says, “she brings these amazing homemade treats every single week- I don’t know how she does it!” I started blushing and was about to wave away the compliment, muttering something like “it’s nothing, it’s just a hobby I really enjoy,” but this other lady butts in with a scoff.
“She doesn’t have kids, that’s how.”
She shot me a condescending look, then went on: “I remember before I had kids I used to have time to bake.”
I rolled my eyes so hard they almost fell out of my head. I wanted to say “bitch I have a full time job. You’re a stay-at-home mom of two school-aged kids. You think you have more free time that I do?” But I said nothing because, as we know, it’s totally ok for moms to disparage non-moms, but not the other way around.
Look, being a mom is awesome and I totally get that it’s more than a full-time job. I fully respect how hard it is to raise children (I work with kids for a living, after all) and I would NEVER put a mom down for not cooking or baking or whatever. But don’t you dare insinuate that my life is somehow so much easier than yours just because I haven’t had kids.
I work all day at a busy clinic, then I do contract work outside of my full-time job. Being a therapist is mentally, emotionally, and physically draining. It’s not like I skip around baking all day like I don’t have a care in the world. No, I do it at night, after work, and on the weekends because I enjoy it, and I make time for it. Don’t put me down for my choices. And P.S., when you act like being a mom is such a life-ending thing you sort of turn other people off of it. If motherhood is going to turn me into you, count me out. Thanks.
Commercials for the “Special K Challenge” make me want to punch someone in the throat.
Besides being all processed foods, this is a starvation diet. Like, 800 calories a day. Worst idea ever.
