Every weekend I bring a batch of cookies or some other homemade treat to the pool and distribute them among the kids and parents there, and this is generally very well-received. Last weekend I brought some extra-delicious cookies, and one of my friends (the mother of 3 kids at the pool) was throwing down on them and shared some with her friend, another mom I don’t know very well. My friend says, “she brings these amazing homemade treats every single week- I don’t know how she does it!” I started blushing and was about to wave away the compliment, muttering something like “it’s nothing, it’s just a hobby I really enjoy,” but this other lady butts in with a scoff.
“She doesn’t have kids, that’s how.”
She shot me a condescending look, then went on: “I remember before I had kids I used to have time to bake.”
I rolled my eyes so hard they almost fell out of my head. I wanted to say “bitch I have a full time job. You’re a stay-at-home mom of two school-aged kids. You think you have more free time that I do?” But I said nothing because, as we know, it’s totally ok for moms to disparage non-moms, but not the other way around.
Look, being a mom is awesome and I totally get that it’s more than a full-time job. I fully respect how hard it is to raise children (I work with kids for a living, after all) and I would NEVER put a mom down for not cooking or baking or whatever. But don’t you dare insinuate that my life is somehow so much easier than yours just because I haven’t had kids.
I work all day at a busy clinic, then I do contract work outside of my full-time job. Being a therapist is mentally, emotionally, and physically draining. It’s not like I skip around baking all day like I don’t have a care in the world. No, I do it at night, after work, and on the weekends because I enjoy it, and I make time for it. Don’t put me down for my choices. And P.S., when you act like being a mom is such a life-ending thing you sort of turn other people off of it. If motherhood is going to turn me into you, count me out. Thanks.
Besides being all processed foods, this is a starvation diet. Like, 800 calories a day. Worst idea ever.